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Conversations with Kids – Week 1 For parents and guardians where we give you prompts so that you can have more meaningful conversations with your children to help them build key characteristics such as mental toughness, resilience, confidence, creativity, focus and so on.   A Question for your Kids If you found a magic key that …

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Overcoming Tough Times in Professional Women’s Football and Bouncing Back Stronger

EP 136 Episode Cover Charlotte Potts

Overcoming Tough Times in Professional Women's Football and Bouncing Back Stronger

Charlotte Potts

Charlotte Potts is a professional footballer who has played for Hibernian Football Club, Sunderland AFC and FC Lugano.  She is also an ambassador for Gateshead FC and can be heard on local radio stations on a regular basis.  Charlotte has an interest in mental health and discrimination and works closely with well recognised charity Show Racism the Red Card too.

In this episode I was joined by professional footballer Charlotte Potts where we had a deep and fascinating conversation about different challenges that she has faced so far in her life and when playing Professional Women’s Football.  We went on to discuss Discrimination, Mental Health and Mindfulness too as well as a whole lot more.  It’s well worth a listen!

Key Learning Points:

  • Charlotte’s mental health has suffered from time to time therefore she has looked to develop a high degree of self-awareness to help herself.
  • Her family was pulled apart when she was young which was difficult for everyone concerned.
  • Discrimination exists in football and in life, however progress is being made.
  • Mental Toughness in football is about coping with pain and being able to push through barriers.   
  • Charlotte has an interest in Mindfulness and regularly practices the approach.
  • Being able to take a step back has helped her with anger issues.
  • Mindfulness has also helped Charlotte see things from a fresh perspective.

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To Listen to Football or Soccer Podcast Episodes

Ep038: Taz Bricknell – Playing Professional Women’s Rugby 

Ep092: Dr James Hegarty – ACT in Sport, Improving Performance through Mindfulness

Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Elite Professional Women’s Football

Ep111: Michael Caulfield – How to be an Effective Sports Psychologist in Elite Professional Football 

Other Helpful Resources

Psychology in Football or Soccer Library

Blog: How Mentally Healthy is Your Clubs Sporting Environment

Blog: Does Your Warm Up Influence How You Perform?

Blog: 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog: Supporting a Professional Footballer during Challenging Times

Blog: 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

Vlog: How Mental Toughness Helps us Understand Psychological Safety with Doug Strycharczyk 

Guided Mindfulness Meditation Practices with Jon Kabat-Zinn

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: info@sport-excellence.co.uk

Helping Fighters Who Self-Sabotage Success

Combat Sports Psychology Tips Helping Fighters Who Self-Sabotage Success

Combat Sports Psychology Tips: Helping Fighters Who Self-Sabotage Success Helping combat fighters stay committed to their training When supporting fighters in combat sports one of the biggest challenges that I come up against is helping them help themselves remain committed to their mental and physical training. Often plateaus in performance occur when you don’t see

David Charlton Gets Grilled By Grant Henderson

EP 135 Episode Cover David Charlton Grant Henderson

David Charlton Gets Grilled By Grant Henderson

Grant Henderson

After growing up in South Africa, Grant set out to pursue a professional rugby career which took him back and forth from SA to the UK with the culmination of one too many head injuries, leading to him hanging up his boots in just his mid 20’s. 

On retiring from rugby and ending up in the North East of England an opportunity in the recruitment world opened up and for the next 5 years Grant worked as a recruitment consultant, regional trainer and branch manager. 

In 2009, with the grip of the global financial crisis being felt, he opened his own consultancy business and stated to advise on coach business owners on how to re-focus their sales teams to navigate the changing market. In 2010, Grant partnered with his parents who are still resident in SA, to take the personality assessment they had developed for marriage guidance counselling and create an online application with some contextualisation for the British market. 

The i3 profiling platform and associated tools have all followed since and today the online assessment has been carried out by over 25000 people all over the world. The i3 tool is all about identifying individuality and increasing self awareness to support each of us in reaching our full potential. 

Since 2017 Grant has worked directly with an international recruitment company, The MCG Group, and in his capacity as COO gets to apply what he has learned through sport, team building and leadership development in a fast paced and high growth environment. 

At home he is husband to Erin and father to 3 young children aged 5-12, always trying to stay fit and healthy in order to be as active a dad as possible. 

In today’s episode, I chat with Grant Henderson a former professional rugby player, Chief Operations Officer at The MCG Group and Co-Founder of i3profiling.  Grant goes on to ask me many questions about the Demystifying Mental Toughness podcast, mental toughness, personality and environment.  By listening to the episode you’ll learn more about how I work as a Sports Psychologist, about the complexities that surround sport performance, reaching your potential and a whole lot more.  

Key Learning Points:

  • Podcasting is a big commitment and has been challenging at times however I really enjoy recording the episodes and the feedback that we get highlights that it makes a positive difference to people’s lives, which is my objective.
  • As a Mental Toughness license holder, where I qualified through AQR International’s training.  I sometimes use the MTQ Plus psychometric to measure clients Mental Toughness at the start and end of programs.  
  • Incorporated into some programs are personality assessments too, where I find i3Profiling compliments the MTQ Plus.
  • An i3 profile presented in the right way can be a big confidence booster, I particularly like the environmental analysis which looks at task and social leadership styles.  This can tell me a lot about how a person should train and mentally prepare themselves.
  • Both psychometric and profiling tools aid self-awareness and can be a quick way of finding out about a person’s complexities and save an enormous amount of time in the consultancy process.  
  • Without self-awareness you’ll continue to make poor decisions and not be as successful and happy as you could be.
  • Mental toughness can be a good thing, however even the mentally tough fall into traps, again highlighting the need for self-awareness.

Connect with Grant Henderson

LinkedIn

i3 Profiling Website

The MCG Group Website

Connect with David Charlton

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Other Useful Podcast Episodes

Ep034 – David Charlton Gets Grilled By Nathan Sherratt

Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success 

Ep084: Jim Afremow and Phil White – Mental Toughness and The Leaders Mind

Ep121: Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry – What Is New? Developments in Mental Toughness Research and Practice

Ep133: Christina Flach – Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

Other Useful Resources 

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

Blog – Mental Toughness is a Hugely Valuable Trait

Blog – Make Better Decisions to Help Your Sport Performance

Sport Psychology for Children and Parents 

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: info@sport-excellence.co.uk

Observations: 3 Things That Stop You Achieving Your Goals

EP 134 Episode Cover David Charlton

Observations: 3 Things That Stop You Achieving Your Goals

David Charlton

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

In this short solo episode, I share 2 short clips from the previous 2 episodes where I chat with Kevin Stansfield and Christina Flach to inspire and motivate you to reflect on your journey.  My hope is that you will pick up some nougats of advice from the business world and then go on to adapt your approach and take some action so that you give yourself the best chance of achieving your goals and using the time and resources that you have available much better.

Key Learning Points

  • A key question to ask yourself is – HOW CAN I REACH MY POTENTIAL?
  • 3 things that stop people from achieving their full potential:
  1. Failure to take ownership and be honest with themselves
  2. Not understanding why you do what you do
  3. Fear of what may or may not happen if you do or don’t do…

Connect with David Charlton

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Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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Relevant Podcast Episodes

Ep21: Steve Hackney – How to Reach Your Full Potential

Ep100: Compilation – 50 Secrets for Optimal Performance and Positive Mental Health

Ep106: Amy Rowlinson – Why is knowing my WHY important?

Ep132: Kevin Stansfield – How Lessons from the Great Game of Golf can Help You Win the, Equally Great, Game of Business

Ep133: Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

Motivation for Sport Quiz

Performance Profile

Blog: For Better Golf Use a Growth Mindset – Sports Psychology

Blog: Coach Development – Helping Athletes Overcome Fear of Failure

Blog: Supporting Children in Sport with Positive Feedback

Blog: How to Find Your Why 

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David Charlton

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: info@sport-excellence.co.uk

Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

EP 133 Episode Cover Christina Flach

Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

Christina Flach

Celebrity Makeup and Hair Artist, Christina Flach, is the creator and CEO of Pretty Girl Makeup. Her work is inspired by her love of beauty, fashion, music, and art, and she channels these passions into her goal of making her client look and feel beautiful on the inside and out.

Previous clients include actress Hillary Swank, former Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice, 27th White House Press Secretary Dana Perino, Senator Ted Cruz, Forbes magazine, and The New York Times, amongst other notable names and brands

Christina was married to professional tennis player Ken Flach up to his death after a brief bout of sepsis in 2018. Since then, Christina has been dedicated to raising public awareness of the danger of sepsis, and has partnered with Sepsis Alliance to produce awareness campaigns highlighting Ken’s story. Christina has spoken about the topic on notable news sources such as Fox News, KTVU, NBC Bay Area, Tennis Channel, ABC Bay Area, and CBS.

Following on from last week, again we look at what we can learn from the business world, entrepreneurship and sport and how they overlap.  Mental Toughness is discussed in different contexts where I chat with Christina Flach, CEO of Pretty Girl Makeup.  Christina was married to former Wimbledon champion and professional tennis player Ken Flach who sadly passed away after a brief bout of sepsis in 2018.  We also go onto discuss the difficulties faced when you lose a loved one and ways that you can help yourself.   

Key Learning Points:

  • In business you need to peak a lot longer than a professional athlete does when you look at the life of your career, therefore self-care is vital.
  • You’ll be a better CEO or entrepreneur if you take time out to relax too.
  • Mental Toughness for entrepreneurs is about not giving up and learning from mistakes.
  • I learned from being a professional tennis player, goal setting and remaining focused is vital.
  • My life is not tragic, focusing on positive memories and things I’m grateful for helps me.
  • Ken would want me to live my best life and dreams and be happy, loved and laughing.
  • “There are no failures and there are no tragedies.”

Connect with Christina Flach:

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Website

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Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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Useful Podcast Episodes

Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success 

Ep084: Jim Afremow and Phil White – Mental Toughness and The Leaders Mind

Ep114: Tim Bradshaw – Because I Can – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

Ep121: Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry – What Is New? Developments in Mental Toughness Research and Practice

Ep124: Richard Dorney MBE – Supporting People: What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

Ep128: Paula Eddy-Wilcox – Can You Show Vulnerability and Be Mentally Tough? Yes!

Other Useful Resources

Blog – How to Find Your Why 

Blog – 5 Reasons team captains should work with a Sports Psychologist

Blog – Mental Toughness is a Hugely Valuable Trait

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

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David Charlton

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: info@sport-excellence.co.uk

How Lessons from the Great Game of Golf can Help You Win the, Equally Great, Game of Business

EP 132 Episode Cover Kevin Stansfield

How Lessons from the Great Game of Golf can Help You Win the, Equally Great, Game of Business

Kevin Stansfield

Kevin Stansfield has been coaching business owners for the last 17 years, is a keen golfer and written 3 books focused on helping you win your game of business.  In his latest book, The Great Game, he looks at the similarities of playing the great game of golf to the equally great game of business, and in this podcast he shares some of those secrets with me.

In today’s episode I chat with author and Business Growth Expert Kevin Stansfield where we discuss what the golfer or sports enthusiast can learn from business and what the business owner can learn from golf or sport in general.  We discuss Mental Toughness and Resilience in a sporting and business context. Business planning, strategy and goal setting are considered as well as the commitment levels to succeed where Kevin goes on to share some fascinating insights.

Key Learning Points:

  • Learning to say no and making sacrifices is essential to be successful.
  • Having a resilience and bloody-mindedness to carry on when there are difficulties is essential.
  • How clear are your goals?
  • To win in sport or business you need to understand the “be”, “do” and “have.”
  • Those that concentrate on doing are also known as busy fools.
  • Playing to your strengths is a fundamental key.
  • Being able to delegate and trust other people is a skill that we can all develop to help us. 

Connect with Kevin Stansfield:

LinkedIn 

Book – The Great Game: How lessons from the great game of golf can help you win the, equally great, game of business

Connect with David Charlton

Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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Useful Podcast Episodes

Ep011: Dave Algeo – Mental Toughness, Mental Health and High Performance

Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success 

Ep 061: Paul Lyons – Why You Should Build Your Mental Toughness

Ep084: Jim Afremow and Phil White – Mental Toughness and The Leaders Mind

Ep121: Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry – What Is New? Developments in Mental Toughness Research and Practice

Ep124: Richard Dorney MBE – Supporting People: What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

Other Useful Resources

Blog – How to Find Your Why 

Blog – 5 Reasons team captains should work with a Sports Psychologist

Blog – Mental Toughness is a Hugely Valuable Trait

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

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David Charlton

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: info@sport-excellence.co.uk

How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – Final Part

EP 131 Episode Cover David Charlton

How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – Final Part

David Charlton

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

This episode is the final part of a three-part series where I’ve tried to help people recognise that to develop Mental Toughness it is not simply about “being tough” or “egotistical” there is more to it than that.   The series of episodes have looked at self-criticism, which we can all find difficult at different times and in different situations, from a variety of angles.  I’ve shared sporting case studies, and why and how having a self-compassionate approach can be helpful.  

This time we look at competitiveness and I highlight when things go wrong how hard it is for some people and how they internalise losses.  Also featured is an exercise to help you in these circumstances – “How you would treat a friend” which you can apply to yourself so you can move on from defeats in a different manner and sleep a little better that evening!

Key Learning Points

  • Competitiveness is a strong desire to be more successful than others.
  • People who are competitive dream about winning, they love the feelings of beating rivals.  
  • Real competitors thrive off pressure in clutch situations.  They love the challenge too, for example taking the decisive penalty kick to win a tournament, they’ll out their hand up.
  • The downsides of being extremely competitive include jealousy of others, very high emotions in sport and corresponding outbursts.
  • A large degree of self-criticism can also be a common behaviour of “the serious competitor” which can work for and against them.
  • To counter the self-criticism, self-compassion is a very helpful approach and can help people relax more quickly in emotional circumstances. 
  • Kristin Neff, who has done extensive research in this area suggests that self-compassion consists of three main elements: kindness, a sense of common humanity, and mindfulness. 
  • Research has shown that most people are kinder to others than they are to themselves. Throw in events or situations that are beyond our control, such as sporting matches and competition – the same is true.  
  • Then exercise “How you would treat a friend” is a helpful reminder to help you be kinder to yourself, to see things from a fresh perspective as well as helping you look in the mirror and be honest with yourself.  

Connect with David Charlton

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Relevant Podcast Episodes

Ep129: David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT1

Ep130 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT2

Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

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David Charlton

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: info@sport-excellence.co.uk